The last thing a woman wants to hear is to be patient when finding a husband. Besides all you?ve done up to this point was wait anyway, right? Some of you have been waiting so long for a husband that you?ve cancelled out the idea of marriage altogether. Being married to the wrong person is far worse than being single. There is so much more that goes into a marriage besides, ?I do.? ?Look at your relationship now (if you are in one). Are you in love one day and fighting the next? If so, that?s dysfunctional. Of course everyone has fights and disagreements but this should not be the entire makeup of your relationship.
We often rush into relationships based on our feelings at that moment?either we are lonely or horny. Being in an unstable relationship like this will cause more harm than good. The first thing you should ask yourself when?contemplating a serious relationship is ?Is this the type of man you want your son to grow up like?? If the answer is no. He is not the one. Other questions to ask yourself.
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- How is he when no one is looking?
- How does he react when you push his buttons?
- Do you all share the same beliefs?
- Is he mentally,?financially, and emotionally ready for marriage?
- Does he want children and he is fully ready to accept yours?
- Is divorce an option for either party?
Before you get into a serious relationship (especially if you are marriage minded) don?t settle for someone who isn?t marriage minded themselves. You will waste a lot of time hoping and praying for a marriage that will probably never come. And don?t settle on being someone?s common law wife. You deserve so much more than that.
If you are single, don?t look for your future spouse to put things in order for you. You need to start putting things in order for yourself during this downtime. Just like you want a man to be prepared for a long-term commitment with you, you should also want to prepare yourself.
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Have things in your past relationships carried over into new relationships?
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Are you still bitter from the last relationship you were in?
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Are you ready for the man to be the man or do you want to wear the pants?
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Do you really want a husband or just a wedding?
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Are you ready to make sacrifices?
The moral of this story is, ?Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. So go into it with a clear mind and an open heart.?
Have you considered marriage with someone? What flaws about them gave you second thoughts?
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